I've been over to Lincoln today to help my son settle into the halls of residence, ready for the start of the new term at the university.
Now, after the initial unloading of the car and the trip to the supermarket for the essentials of bread milk and 'BEER', I kinda got the feeling that I wasn't needed any more. So I said my goodbyes, told him to behave himself and off I went......
I was OK with that, because he's a very independent lad and I know he's going to have a ball while he's there.
But what I'd like to know is, Have any of you had the same experience? And is it different for girls? ie if it's your daughter that's off to uni are you more concerned?
When I went off to Derby to study Ceramics I thought my parents felt exactly as I do today but, a few years after I left, I found out my mum cried all the way home after dropping me off?????
It's a bit like babies The first one has their dirty face washed with boiled water & cotton wool balls. The second gets baby wipes & the third gets the dishcloth lol
I just packed off my third and I skipped out the halls lol! I've heard she's settling in fine and thoroughly enjoyed the foam party last night.....that's my girl!
It was a bit different leaving the eldest one though....was definitely very sad with my first and I missed her so much
My ex husband is behaving a bit strangely though and seems to be really struggling with this much more than me (hhhmmm "just nipped in while I was passing"....Kendal to Manchester via Leeds??? )
I also have the advantage of working in student services for many years and I KNOW how bloody fab it can be being a new student....I'm quite green with envy actually and wish I could be a student all over again...definitely among the best years of my life
like me, my eldest hides her fears behind a facade of (over) confidence.
however, she genuinely seemed relaxed and comfortable and that made me happy as i came away (although her younger sister didnt seem so happy to be stuck with me!!). she seems to be sharing her block of 5 with a good bunch and is in a great location in sheffield city centre.
sadly, she has to come home on thursday to attend the funeral of her 19 year old friend, so that kind of puts things in perspective........... xxx
Bloody hell mandy, that's hard for your lass....sheesh too right it puts everything into perspective....aren't we so lucky to be waving ours off into the big wide world
I am the proud owner of a 24 year old son who toddled off to Brighton Uni age 18 and spent 3 fab years drinking, partying and making friends, o and he did a wee bit of work, i think !!!
Worst part was leaving him there for the very first time knowing i wasnt round the corner anymore if he needed me. Was he bothered ......... erm .... NO. Phone calls were off the ..... Mom 'how do i use the washing machine?' variety along with 'love you' ......... meaning can i have some money please lol
He came back from there, and i knew full well he would never want to live with Mommy again lol , part of me was sad another quite relieved cos after 3 years i was used to a tidy house :)
He is now in his 4th and final year as a med student, becoming a fully fledged allowed to practice on you doctor .......... god help you all !!!!
All i can say is whilst we sit at home worrying whether they have eaten, got clean undies on, got up on time etc ......... they are having a frickin ball lol
when i dropped my daughter of at uni. 2 years ago i said dont worry about the education just make sure you get the partying right! it gave me a lot more time for BM events and she loved the night life so we both won
Due to various reasons - personal, financial etc my eldest didn't go to uni as planned when she was 18. She finally got there to Derby, where she originally wanted to go, at the ripe old age of 25. I went with her to help sort her stuff out, she was in a grotty little flat as it was all she could get as it was all last minute, but she was happy enough. Even though she'd actually left home when she was 19 she still lived only 10 minutes walk away from me. When I got on the train home from Derby that day after leaving her in the new flat I cried like a baby She's finished uni now and is still in Derby
My youngest actually left me when he was 10 to live with his dad - a whole heartbreaking story, but came back when he was 18. After his 21st birthday he went travelling for a while, met an Irish girl who was on holiday in Spain, she stayed with him for a couple of months and then they went back to Ireland together and he's still there 6 years on and still with the same girl.
Don't think it matters whether it's off to uni or just off into the big wide world, they're still your babies and you still love and miss them but we have to let them go.
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