Knowing that Lindaloki's son can smile after his bike crash. Bike written off but appart from aches and pains he is ok and ready to get back on a bike. :-)
XK, I'm posting my reply here publicly now because I, too, am a bit sick of it.
You've been on the site for years and I personally have had to tell you SO many times that your comments aren't appreciated by everyone.
Actually it's been less than a week since I privately told you to tone it down, shame it didn't last long.
The simple fact of the matter is... even if you know someone really well, well enough to post such comments, that not everyone reading the forums knows your relationship with the person you're responding to. To many ladies just browsing the site for the first time they're going to think "WTF is this for a site, I'm outta here". Yes you ARE scaring people away from the site and I guarantee there are more people who find your comments crude and unwelcoming than those who find them funny.
Sexual innuendo has it's time and place. "Frequently" is not the time, and "Public forum" is not the place. There comes a point where constant sexual innuendo is no longer funny but just creepy, sad and weird.
Those comments are no longer welcome, not by a large majority of women on this site and also not by me. Absolutely not welcomed from a member of staff either. I'm no prude and I can assure you that my humour is as dark as they come, but have some class for God's sake man.
@ JuliaC you said in a post up thread- 'I can, however, appreciate you wanting to stand up for the single women on the site that are more sensitive than myself'
It's not about whether a woman is single or not, or sensitive or not, it's about the fact that almost every time a woman sticks her neck up above the worlds parapet she faces abuse - whether verbal or physical, sexual, or financial. It's endemic, and needs to stop.
The Quote below is from the website of www.rapecrisislondon.org
Sexual harassment is behaviour towards someone of a sexual
nature that is not welcomed by that person. The vast majority of people
who experience it are woman. Estimates suggest that half of women in
employment have been subjected to sexual harassment.
Sexual harassment is often legitimised by phrases like ‘just a bit of
fun’, ‘I was only being friendly’, or ‘where’s your sense of humour’,
but it is really the abuse of power. It is very serious and a criminal
offence. Recognise any of those comments? THIS is what most members on here - male as well as female - object to. I know I do. It's NOT banter, it's NOT a bit of fun, it's nasty insidious bullying, and I'm glad Matt has stepped in.
Happy Friday all , making me smile now is I'm out of work early and chilling with a friend and a cheeky wee afternoon cocktail and some great tunes on Planet Rock, simple pleasures are the best x
My humour involves leg-pulling and a certain amount of cheek. I do not pick mainly on the females, rb, you just choose to ignore the males, because it suits your unfair allegation.
Thank you Julia and Lulu, for trying to put the record straight. But there's none so deaf as those who will not listen. If you care to read rb's comments, it's clear that her hatred of me has closed her mind.
D6 - 'females wary of being harassed by me' Who? Name one. No evidence, just the opinion of a self-appointed protector of the weak and feeble women on BM. How insulting to modern day ladies. I have pm'd all my female acquaintances, all denied my ever having harassed them.
And I see pb has turned my 'harassment' into 'sexual harassment' Harassment is continually picking on someone. Name one. Go on, go on! Get off your soapbox. I most strongly object to your implication that I am a 'nasty insidious bully'. Harassment has to be, by the rapecrisis definition 'unwelcome'. Both Julia and Lulu have said they didn't find my words offensive. Blimey, the rapecrisis organisation!
Matt. Perhaps you should put a warning on the log-on page. This is an adult site. Do not enter if you are sensitive or easily offended. Peeps only complain to you, no one will send you a pm saying how funny they find me.
Please pm all members. Do you find XK funny or offensive? If it's the latter, I will leave. If the former, I hope you will give the moaners short thrift.
Here's summat that seems to be overlooked, my convo with Julia. She was on her way back to France.
Watching my man SG ride away after his surprise visit from Bolton to Suffolk, so that he could spend my last day in the UK with me.
Suffolk?Must be serious. Lucky frog Final note. If someone objects to a post, they should hit the 'notify mods' button. Not slag them off on the forum. When all is said and done, out of all the peeps on BM, only 3 moaned, not notifying the moderators in the correct manner.
Can I just correct the assumption that I "hate" you XK. I dislike your attitude and I do find you just as offensive to the men, however this incident involved a female.
Hate...tyrants,despots terrorists n the like.
Dislike....people like you! You like to dish it out but get self righteous and act all offended when people stand up to you.
I don't go running to Matt because I can say my opinion quite well on my own.
If you think I am intolerant, over sensitive etc etc fine, you are perfectly entitled to your opinion, just as I am entitled to mine about you.
If you are right stick to your guns, If you're wrong deal with it, Not "I will leave the site" And sit in a corner sulking and singing to yourself "Nobody loves me, Everybody hates me just because I eat worms" song.
Now I think you know you're in the wrong because Julia posted the same thing on two places.
1) in the what make you sad today (Where you copied from)
and 2) this one on page 1045 and your reply is there for all to see. So please mate grow some bollox, wipe your mouth and get on enjoying a good site.
Ps, You'll be doing more crying to the barstaff when you hand over the money at Kiss with all the beers you'll be buying me
I was getting grief over one comment, which Julia took in the spirit it was intended, but a couple of others decided to make a big deal out of it. My other comment was totally ignored.
I have asked Matt to put it to a vote. If I am proved right, I will stay. If I am proved wrong, then I must leave, as I would not wish to inflict my 'humour' on this site's little angels any further.
And D6, do you mean that Might is Right? Or do I get my vote?
We should all of us remember we are all different, think differently, laugh at different things, abide to different moral codes, have different levels of what we find offensive. We should never assume we will get on and like everybody and vice versa never assume everyone likes us. Tolerance, tact, diplomacy and condideration are things we should try to abide by when interacting with folks who are unfamiliar with us and our faubles. Hope that makes sense lol
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