WHY?
Why do some members disable their profile but post in the forum?
Either you want to join in with fellow members or you don't.
Recently a lot of members have disabled profiles, either while in chat room or on forum, some are newbies so I find it a bit odd that they don't want anyone to see their profile.
The idea of this website is to meet and make friends, and for some of us hopefully meet our soulmate, so profiles without photos of the member or profiles that are disabled seems a bit anti-social to me.
Apologies if I offend but what's the point of joining a social site if ya not goina be sociable?
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pretty weird to me , i mean who's going to respond if there's no profile pic? is this not connected to the removal of pics that dont conform ?? just asking Kwak
is this not connected to the removal of pics that dont conform ?? just asking Kwak
Valid question ex, it's possible I guess but in that case folk who have had their profile suspended shouldn't be able to post. I'm assuming the profile is suspended while the mods sort out the photo.
could it be a good idea that only moderators can disable your profile, so ie of you want to diasble your own profile you can put a request to do so, then a moderator can ask why etc!!!!
I can't disable mine cos I'm staff.
I aint against folk disabling their profile, just not ALL the time and not if they're posting in the forum.
Sometimes, such as going on holiday, a member may wish to withold their profile until they are there to reply to their messages. Another way of doing it is to add to their profile that they are away and will reply when they return.
u can post with a disabled profile... so people aren't posting and then disabling their profile.
If we remove the option to disable ur own profile, people will just ask for their account to be deleted... which means loosing members and loosing contributions.
20% of profiles are disabled actually, but most of them are inactive/deleted members who don't use the site. The percentage of those who use the forums and have a disabled profile is very little.
You can still PM those with disabled profiles, which I suggest you do and ask them to enable their profile. Be polite tho and remember everyone is entitled to have their profile hidden (Not everyone is here to meet others for dating, and just like other forums on the net they might not want all their personal details visble)
*You can still PM those with disabled profiles, which I suggest you do and ask them to enable their profile. Be polite tho and remember **everyone is entitled to have their profile hidden (***Not everyone is here to meet others for dating, and just like other forums on the net they might not want all their personal details visble)
*I know that the PM still works even if the profile is disabled.
**So how come you don't let me disable my profile? Just cos I'm staff shouldn't matter if I can still be reached by PM. (not that I want to disable my profile, at least not when I'm posting or in chat room)
***so they only enter what they want people to see. And even if they aren't interested in dating, and just want to meet friends surely we're entitled to see WHO we are meeting?!
I still reckon if they disable their profile it should mean they can't interact. Seems fair enough to me.
bluesbiker In: Birmingham in th
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You can have the right to stop me disabling my profile the minute matt lets me see every single person that is sniffing around in profiles without been signed in. I find that more sleazy than turning of my profile.
I don't want to stop anyone disabling their profile, I just don't see why those who do should be able to interact.
If they can't show their face, and a little bit of info' about themselves, then they shouldn't expect to be able to interact.
Kwak, I just want all those on the staff page to have a public page (So our 21,000 other members can see who exactly it is that's looking after the place).
Maybe we should vote on the issue then about who can/can't interact?
(I'm gonna set up a voting system I think on the site, that's my next task)
For what it's worth, I disabled my profile when I was going through a bit of a bad time last year, health and relationshipwise... I really didn't want new people clicking on me and sending me messages, but I did still want to maintain contact with the friends I'd made either via PMs or on the forums.I wasn't in the right frame of mind to respond to PMs from folk I didn't know and would likely have metaphorically bitten their heads off, so I figured a disabled profile was the more pleasant way to avoid it! As for people signing out to check your profile, quite often it's people of the same sex as you and they feel it might be embarrassing to be seen to be scoping such profiles on a part "dating" site, but they want to see what you say about yourself before turning up to a group meet.
The way I see it, any information you choose to put out there on the www is fair game. Once it's out there, it's in the public domain. Taking it to the extreme - internet stalkers can't get anything more than what you give them. They're few and far between. I've been trolled in the past when someone who really didn't like me (I answered back and shot his racist argument down in flames - wimmen apparently aren't entitled to hold opinions! ) ... discovered I was on a dating site (Lycos) and proceeded to put bits of my profile up on the other forum, trying to embarrass me & bait me into a personal slanging match, putting up my profile photo and saying what a fat, ugly cow I was and how it was no wonder I had to "resort" to online dating sites as nobody would touch me with a bargepole etc! ... I just said thanks for driving more traffic to my profile and giving me free advertising on another site so it kind of backfired on him.I think that's more considerate than sleazy. Sleazy is getting messages from men wanting to meet for "NSA fun"! Responses such as "Go away you silly little man!" and "Not in this lifetime mate!" usually have the desired effect of no more contact from such desperate characters though